Stop Blaming Others

Have you noticed how we tend to blame others when we feel bothered or annoyed at something? We tend to find the source of our discomfort on the outside, and many times the outside source seems really convincing for us. For instance, you are a tester supposed to have been handed over some development on Wednesday, and this gets delayed, putting all the pressure on you to still complete the task on time.

However convincing that may be, the source of our discomfort is always in our inside, and never in the outside. Does this mean that you should repress whatever you feel for being wrong or incorrect? No. Whatever you feel fulfils a purpose, and is there for you to observe and learn from. It’s very valuable information for you.

You will be much better off if you understand where your discomfort comes from, and stop blaming others for the circumstances you don’t like about your life.

The great news of all this is that it brings the power back to you. You have control over your life, there is nothing on the outside that is controlling how you feel.

As Viktor E. Frankl said in his book Man’s Search for Meaning:

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

Life’s circumstances that cause us great pain, help us toward having the realization that our perception of outside controlling forces is incorrect. They help us change this perception.